“The Hold-Me-Longer Goodbye”
Whenever you greet your partner or say goodbye, you hold them close in a warm hug, long enough for both of you to relax into it. No more kisses in the doorway with your keys in your hand.
From Ultimate Intimacy Boost“You’re miles away tonight.”
your partner says softly in the dark, with an arm around you, while you are halfway through tomorrow’s to-do list
If you have ever been lying right next to the person you love and felt a hundred miles from them, you will know this moment.
Your shoulders are up near your ears. Your body is in the bed, but your mind is on the school form, the email you forgot to send and the meeting at nine.
And underneath all of that, a quieter voice is worrying about how you look in this light.
Why can’t I just be here? Why does being close feel like a test?
So you do the thing so many people do. You give a quick kiss, say “Sorry, I’m just shattered,” and turn onto your side.
“It’s fine,” they say, and their arm slides away.
The dark seems to get a little bigger between you.
Then comes the part that keeps you awake.
You lie there and count back. When was the last hug long enough to relax into? You honestly can’t remember. These days it is a kiss at the door with your keys already in your hand, and two phones glowing in bed at night.
You remember how the two of you used to fall asleep holding hands, and how easy it all felt.
You feel self-conscious, disconnected and a little sad, as if you are watching your own relationship from the outside.
The love hasn’t gone anywhere. You can hear it in the way they said “It’s fine,” trying not to make you feel bad. Somewhere along the way the closeness got rushed, then awkward, then rare.
Lying there in the dark, you decide you want it back.
When closeness has faded, there are three things a person can do
This page is about the third way.
Most advice about intimacy makes people feel worse.
Glossy magazines offer “ten ways to spice things up,” complete with photos that make you more self-conscious than before. Well-meaning friends say “Just relax!”, which is like telling someone to fall asleep on command. And the general message everywhere seems to be: try harder.
Trying harder is exactly what keeps your mind outside the moment.
Researchers who study closeness found a gentler road
Decades ago, the researchers Masters and Johnson gave a name to watching yourself from the outside during intimate moments, worrying how you look or whether you are doing it right. They called it spectatoring, and their exercises trained attention back to touch and sensation, without pressure.
More recently, a group program that taught women with low desire to bring their attention back to the present moment helped them feel more desire and less distress, and the gains were still there six months later.
Everyday affectionate touch lifted both partners’ mood and closeness. And across many studies, couples who talked more openly about their intimate life reported a more satisfying one.
One more idea comes from researchers who study desire. For a lot of people, desire follows relaxation and closeness, rather than arriving first and on demand.
Put that together and the whole problem looks different.
Closeness grows when you feel relaxed, present and safe.
Dr. Steve G. Jones has built that into
three self-hypnosis tracks of gentle habits you rehearse in deep relaxation, 12 of them on this page
Each habit is fixed to a moment that is already part of your day: hello and goodbye, passing in the hallway, coming home, the mirror, the last hour before bed.
Together they work like an owner’s manual for closeness, written in plain, warm words.
Being present in close moments, feeling good in your own skin, and caring for yourself over the years.
Now picture an ordinary evening next week
You get home after a busy day and take a few minutes to let it go before you walk into the kitchen.
Your partner comes in, and you hold them in a warm hug, long enough for both of you to relax into it.
Later, the phones charge in the hall. You are lying close, and your mind starts drifting to the list. This time you notice it kindly and bring your attention back to one simple thing, the warmth of their hand in yours.
When the old worry about how you look starts up, you take one slow breath and step back inside your body, into what you feel right now.
And as you drift off, a small, surprised voice asks, “Where did THAT come from?”
What happens in that evening is what Ultimate Intimacy Boost rehearses, gently and with your eyes closed, while you float in the warm spring. Steve says it this way:
“Whenever you are close to your partner, you relax, you are fully here, and affection flows freely between you.”
Dr. Steve G. Jones, on the Ultimate Intimacy Boost track
The body opens to warmth when it feels safe and supported, and closeness works the same way.
Closeness starts with how you feel in your own skin.
Relaxing into close moments is the heart of this edition, and Ultimate Intimacy Boost covers it gently and fully.
But very often the thing that pulls a person out of the moment is the worry about how they look. Feel Attractive Now helps you feel good in your own skin today, with a kinder first look in the mirror and one kind word for every old critical thought.
And closeness needs energy. A person running on five hours’ sleep, after a day of saying yes to everyone, has very little left for anyone. Feel More Attractive builds the rest, the care and the self-respect that let your warmth grow year after year.
Presence, ease in your own skin and care that lasts: together they form what this page calls
The Warm Spring Methodafter the warm mountain spring on the first track, where you float, fully supported, and your whole body softens
The name fits all three tracks. Each one helps your body and mind feel safe enough to open up to warmth.
And that brings us to you.
Tasteful from start to finish, with no pressure on anyone
These tracks are tasteful from start to finish. They make no promises about how often, how much or by when, and they never put pressure on anyone. On the track, both partners are always free to say yes, and free to say “not tonight,” kindly.
If anything about your body, your comfort or your desire ever concerns you, talk with your doctor first.
Steve says exactly that on the track, because changes in desire or comfort can have medical causes. And if you would both like more support, he suggests finding a therapist who helps couples with intimacy, as a loving thing to do together. These tracks are not for anyone in an abusive, controlling or unsafe relationship, or for anyone working through trauma. A qualified therapist is the right person to help there.
How can a recording help you relax into closeness?
It trains the relaxed state itself. Each track begins with deep, comfortable relaxation. On Ultimate Intimacy Boost you float in a natural warm spring among smooth rocks in a green mountain valley, late in the afternoon, with steam rising and a pink and gold sky, and Steve counts you down from ten to one as the water holds you completely.
In that state you hear short, clear suggestions, and then silences in which you see yourself relaxed, present and close.
Steve phrases each suggestion as what researchers call an if-then plan, whenever this happens, I do that, so the moment your mind wanders off to the to-do list becomes the very thing that brings you back.
Listen every day, and the feeling of that warm water starts to arrive whenever you take three slow breaths.
Are you ready to be fully here when your partner reaches for you?
Are you ready to look in the mirror kindly?
Are you ready for hugs long enough to relax into, every single day?
If those three questions made something in you soften, that is your answer.
Dr. Steve G. Jones has practised clinical hypnotherapy and NLP since the 1980s, and he is an associate member of the American Psychological Association.
On a subject this personal, the tracks had to get three things right.
Here are 12 of the habits you rehearse with The Warm Spring Method
“The One-Sensation Return”
You are close to your partner and your mind drifts to tomorrow’s list. What now? You notice it kindly, and you bring your attention back to one simple sensation, such as the warmth of a hand.
From Ultimate Intimacy Boost“The Just-Because Touch”
Whenever you pass each other at home, you rest a hand on their shoulder or touch their hand, simply to let them know that you are there and that you love them.
From Ultimate Intimacy Boost“The Day-Off-Your-Shoulders Pause”
Whenever you come home after a busy day, you take a few minutes to let the day go, so that the person who walks in the door is you and not your inbox.
From Ultimate Intimacy Boost“The Last-Minutes-Are-Ours”
At night your phone charges in another room, so the last minutes of your day belong to each other. You may find you talk more in those ten minutes than in the whole evening before.
From Ultimate Intimacy Boost“The Inside-Out Step”
Whenever you notice yourself watching from the outside, worrying how you look or whether you are doing things right, you take one slow breath and step back inside your body, into what you feel right now.
From Ultimate Intimacy BoostAnd so much more…
“The Morning-Mirror Kindness”
Whenever you see your reflection, you find one thing you like and let yourself enjoy it, saying quietly and warmly, “I like what I see.”
From Feel Attractive Now“The Kind-Word Comeback”
Whenever an old critical thought about your body appears, you answer it with one kind word. Over time the kind word gets the last say.
From Feel Attractive Now“The Wind-Down Hour”
In the last hour before bed you dim the lights, put your phone away and do something calm you enjoy, and you go to bed at a regular time, rested enough to enjoy being close.
From Feel More Attractive“The Me-Time Appointment”
Each week you keep some time for something that is yours alone. It can feel selfish at first, and it is part of the care that keeps your warmth going for everyone around you.
From Feel More AttractiveThere isn’t room here for the moment you put everything aside and really listen, the doorway that makes you a little taller, or the water you keep within reach all day…
“The Cup-Of-Tea Wish”
In a calm moment, on a walk or over a cup of tea, you share one thing you love about being close, or one thing you would like more of. Perhaps, “I’d love more cuddles in the morning.”
From Ultimate Intimacy Boost“The ‘Not Tonight, But…’”
closeness has started to feel like all or nothing. You and your partner both feel free to say yes, and free to say, “Not tonight, but come and hold me.”
From Ultimate Intimacy BoostWho is Dr. Steve G. Jones?
He is a licensed Clinical Hypnotherapist, and nothing on these tracks would make you blush to play them with the door open. Steve has practised clinical hypnotherapy and NLP since the 1980s.
He is a member of the American Board of Hypnotherapy and the National Guild of Hypnotists, and President of the American Alliance of Hypnotists and the American Union of NLP. He holds a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology from the University of Florida and a Doctorate in Education from Georgia Southern University.
His own path wasn’t smooth. Failed business ventures once left him $80,000 in credit card debt and living in his office after being evicted. He reprogrammed his mind, built simple systems to get his life back on track, and created the Dream Life Mastery Program.
Praise for Dr. Steve G. Jones and his hypnosis programs
“among the best in the world”
Being someone who is extremely familiar with the power of hypnosis, I can say without a shadow of a doubt that Clinical Hypnotherapist Steve G. Jones is among the best in the world.
“How lucky are those who have had the benefit of his genius!”
WOW! No wonder Steve is the leader in hypnotherapy. How lucky are those who have had the benefit of his genius!
“I have always believed in hypnosis”
I have been lucky enough to be able to listen to Steve Jones’ recordings for about 7 or 8 years. I have always believed in hypnosis and have found these recordings to be effective and very useful. I just listen and notice the change.
“Your Fan, Student & Friend.”
My appreciation for your work and the positive impact it’s made on my life is far more than I’m able to describe here. However, I’ve been inspired to live out my dreams and have actually taken real steps towards its realization in the past few months. Your Fan, Student & Friend.
“without a doubt the best in his field”
Dr. Steve G. Jones is without a doubt the best in his field.
These people are talking about Steve’s hypnosis programs in general, not about this edition.
Can you feel it?
The softening in your shoulders when you imagine a long, warm hug at the end of the day, with nowhere else to be.
What would it be worth to be fully present when your partner reaches for you?
What would it be worth to stop watching yourself from the outside?
What would it be worth to say what you would love, kindly, over a cup of tea?
And what would it be worth to fall asleep holding hands again?
Most couples simply let it drift.
The phones stay in bed, the hugs stay short, and nobody mentions it, because mentioning it feels harder than living with it. Years can go by like that.
Take a moment with that.
What would be fair to pay for closeness like that?
Each of these tracks is sold separately at dreamlifetrack.com, so the figures are real. Ultimate Intimacy Boost is $29.95 on its own, Feel Attractive Now is $29.95 and Feel More Attractive is $29.95.
The three bought separately come to $89.85.
The Ultimate Intimacy Boost Complete Edition gives you all three in one order, for less than you would pay for two and a half:
one payment of $69.95keeping $19.90 for an evening out together
Your order is backed by our 30-Day, No-Questions-Asked, 100% Satisfaction Guarantee.
How to use the three
Steve suggests staying with one track for 21 days. Begin with Ultimate Intimacy Boost for presence and affection, then Feel Attractive Now for feeling at home in your body, then Feel More Attractive for the rest and self-care that keep your warmth growing. Priced as one plan, the three cost less together.
They come as an instant download and play privately on your own headphones.
And because a decision this personal deserves time…
Take 30 days, privately, to see how it feels.
Order the Ultimate Intimacy Boost Complete Edition, download the tracks and listen every day. Try the long hugs, the phone in the hall and the one-sensation return.
Should you not feel 100% happy with your purchase at any time in the next 30 days, a quiet email to support gets you every penny back, and nobody needs to know you asked.
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What comes in the Ultimate Intimacy Boost Complete Edition
Track oneUltimate Intimacy Boost
For physical and emotional closeness. Everyday affection, letting the day go, presence in close moments, kind talk about what you enjoy, and the freedom to say yes or “not tonight”, rehearsed while floating in a warm mountain spring.
Sold on its own for $29.95
Track twoFeel Attractive Now
For feeling good in your own skin today. A kind reply at the mirror, a kind word for every critical thought, standing tall and letting compliments in, rehearsed in a summer mountain meadow.
Sold on its own for $29.95
Track threeFeel More Attractive
For warmth that grows with the years. A calm last hour before bed, daily movement your doctor approves of, a kind and honest no, and time that is yours alone, rehearsed beside a winter cabin fire.
Sold on its own for $29.95
Add it up and this is the picture.
| Ultimate Intimacy Boost, sold on its own | $29.95 |
| Feel Attractive Now, sold on its own | $29.95 |
| Feel More Attractive, sold on its own | $29.95 |
| The three bought separately at dreamlifetrack.com | $89.85 |
| The Ultimate Intimacy Boost Complete Edition | $69.95 |
Click the button and ClickBank takes your payment on the next page. Then you download the tracks as MP3 files for your phone, tablet or computer. Put on headphones, lie back and press play.
All three tracks, privately, for one payment of $69.95.
Picture the months ahead
Hello and goodbye come with hugs long enough to relax into.
You pass in the kitchen and a hand rests on a shoulder, just because.
The last minutes of the day belong to the two of you, with the phones out in the hall.
You catch yourself in the mirror and find something you like before you find anything else.
And in close moments you are simply there, warm and relaxed, with nowhere else your mind needs to be.
Tonight’s goodnight can go one of two ways.
Your body opens to warmth when it feels held.
Have you noticed what happens when you lower yourself into warm water? You don’t force your shoulders to drop. They drop on their own, because your body feels held.
Closeness is like that. You can’t force it, and you don’t need to. Make it safe, warm and unhurried, and it opens up by itself.
If the distance across the bed feels much wider than it looks, make one small decision tonight.
Reach across the bed tonight, and let yourself be there.
P.S. Take up to 30 days, in private, to try the long hugs and the phone in the hall. If you aren’t 100% happy, email support@dreamlifeprogram.com and every penny comes back, no questions asked.
P.P.S. On their own the three tracks sell for $29.95 each, $89.85 together. The Ultimate Intimacy Boost Complete Edition gives you all three and all 12 habits on this page for $69.95, as an instant download, so tonight’s goodnight could be the first long hug.
“Yes! I’m ready to relax, be fully present and let affection flow easily between us again.”
