Two People Can Love Each Other Deeply And Still Watch Themselves From The Outside When They’re Close

The Hand That Reaches Out While The Mind Is Still At Work

It’s late, and both people are in bed with their phones. One of them puts the phone down and reaches across, and the other is still somewhere else entirely: on tomorrow’s meeting, the list of things to do, the message that never got answered.

So the body goes along while the mind watches from a distance and asks questions that have nothing to do with the moment. How do I look? Am I doing this right? Is this taking too long? Afterwards both of them feel a little further apart than before, and neither says a word about it.

After a few evenings like that, closeness starts to feel like one more thing to get right, and it gets easier to stay on the phone.

(If that scene isn’t quite yours, the same pattern shows up in hugs that end too quickly, touch that only happens in passing and the awkward silence whenever desire comes up.)

“Here you have nothing to do and nothing to prove. You simply feel.”

Steve’s own life once took a very hard turn, with $80,000 of credit card debt and an eviction that left him living out of his office. What changed it for him was learning to reprogram his own mind, and the same idea runs through this track.

Most advice about a fading spark adds effort: plan a date night, try harder, make it happen. Effort is a conscious push, and closeness comes from a relaxed body and a quiet mind. For many people desire follows relaxation and closeness, so pushing to feel it first tends to bring the very tension that keeps it away.

Therapists have a name for watching yourself from the outside during a close moment: “spectatoring”. While attention is busy checking how things look, very little of it is left for what you feel, and a tired mind that never fully arrived home from the day does this even more.

Pressure feels like the responsible answer, which is why it’s so hard to put down. Each round of it adds to the self-consciousness, though, so the next close moment starts with even more watching than the last.

Call it the Spectator Seat. Almost everyone sits in it at some point, so it says nothing about how much you love your partner or how attractive you are. The cause is a tense, watchful state of mind, and helping you leave that seat is the job this track was designed for.

From $80,000 In Debt And Living Out Of His Office To Self-Made Multimillionaire

Steve lost his mother at an early age and grew up with his father, who battled alcohol abuse.

Later in life he went through a lot of career detours and failed business ventures, and he soon found himself $80,000 in credit card debt. Financial institutions and collection agencies were beating down on his door. He held on as long as he could, until he was evicted from his own place and had to live out of his office, which he was about to lose as well.

Think about what getting up for work looks like when the office is also where you live, and you know it’s about to go too. That was where things turned for Steve. He discovered a way to reprogram his mind to attract everything he needed, and to put systems in place that got his life back on track.

He used a combination of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) techniques and a specific framework for happiness and success, and from it he developed the Dream Life Mastery program for getting the results he wanted.

Today he’s a licensed Clinical Hypnotherapist and a self-made multimillionaire who manages 22 training certification programs in hypnosis and NLP.

Ultimate Intimacy Boost takes the idea at the heart of Steve’s turnaround, changing what happens in the mind first, and brings it to the closeness between you and your partner.

Linda Abramson wrote this about Steve’s work in general:

“open a new door to a new path”

I would highly recommend you and your site to anyone who is fed up with the way things are now, this minute, and want to open a new door to a new path. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

Steve Has Practiced Hypnotherapy And NLP Since The 1980s

Dr. Steve G. Jones is a licensed Clinical Hypnotherapist and self-made multimillionaire who developed the Dream Life Mastery Program to help other people reach their goals and make incredible breakthroughs in their own lives.

• Life and business coach to top Hollywood directors, sports stars and CEOs.
• President of the American Alliance of Hypnotists and of the American Union of NLP.
• Member of the American Board of Hypnotherapy and the National Guild of Hypnotists, and an associate member of the American Psychological Association.
• Four degrees: a B.A. in Psychology from the University of Florida (1994), an M.Ed. from Armstrong Atlantic State University (2007), and an Ed.S. (2009) and Ed.D. (2013) from Georgia Southern University.

“Over the years, I’ve worked with many clients one on one. Many of whom have gone on to achieve phenomenal success.”

After The Date Night, The Same Busy Mind Comes Home To Bed

Plenty of couples have tried the usual fixes. They’ve booked the date nights, read the articles and promised each other more time together, and some of those evenings were lovely.

Then they came home, and the same habits came home with them: the phones in bed, the mind running through tomorrow, the watching from the outside. Advice like that is aimed at the calendar, and self-consciousness sits deeper than any plan can reach.

Ultimate Intimacy Boost works at that deeper level, on the relaxed, present state that lets a good evening turn into real closeness, so the plans you make have somewhere to land.

Count The Evenings That Finish On Two Screens

These numbers only count the last minutes of the day, so leave everything else about your evenings as it is.

Those minutes are some of the few in the day when two people are finally alone together. The track suggests a simple change: at night your phone charges in another room, so the last minutes of your day belong to each other.

Change the numbers until they look like your evenings. Every one of those hours could go to being close, relaxed and unhurried.

From The First Hug Of The Day To The Last Minutes Before Sleep

Each habit answers one of the five places where closeness goes missing.

When It Arrives, What It Plays On And How The Refund Works