The Warmth That Makes Someone Attractive For Years Is The First Thing To Go When You Always Come Last

The Old Photo That Stops You For A Moment

It often happens on an ordinary evening. Someone shares an old photo, or a birthday with a big number on it is coming up, and there’s a face from ten or twenty years ago, bright-eyed and laughing at something. The thought arrives before any other: those were the good years.

Then the evening carries on the way most evenings do. One more favor gets agreed to, although the honest answer was no. Dinner happens standing up, and the phone stays lit in bed long after the lights go off. The next morning starts tired and gray, and the conclusion feels obvious: looks fade, and it’s too late to do much about it.

So whatever is left over goes on everyone else again, because there doesn’t seem much point spending it on someone whose best years are behind them.

(If an old photo isn’t where it shows up for you, the same moment can come at a reunion, at a new decade, or at the end of a long week when there’s no warmth left for anyone, yourself included.)

“I now give you permission to put yourself on your own list of people to care for. You matter, and the time you spend caring for yourself is time well spent.”

Steve has started again from a low point himself. He was once $80,000 in credit card debt and living out of his office after being evicted from his own place, and the way he rebuilt his life is further down this page.

Most people who feel they’ve “let themselves go” have spent years caring hard, for their family, their work, their friends and anyone who asks. The care went everywhere except to the person at the bottom of the list.

Coming last has a cost that shows. Rest gets cut first, and in one study, people photographed after two short nights of sleep were rated as less attractive and less healthy, and the people rating them were less keen to spend time with them. Water, proper meals and movement go next. Then the warmth itself starts to fade, because it’s hard to greet anyone warmly at the end of a day spent on yeses you didn’t mean.

A belief underneath keeps it going. If attractiveness is only looks, and looks fade with age, then caring for yourself seems pointless, and the person who believes that stays at the bottom of their own list.

Call it the Last-On-The-List Habit. It nearly always grows out of kindness, so feeling faded says very little about anyone’s looks or age. The cause is the order in which care gets handed out, and changing that order is the job this track was designed for.

From $80,000 In Debt And Living Out Of His Office To Self-Made Multimillionaire

Steve lost his mother at an early age and grew up with his father, who battled alcohol abuse.

Later in life he went through a lot of career detours and failed business ventures, and he soon found himself $80,000 in credit card debt. Financial institutions and collection agencies were beating down on his door. He held on as long as he could, until he was evicted from his own place and had to live out of his office, which he was about to lose as well.

Think about what getting up for work looks like when the office is also where you live, and you know it’s about to go too. That was where things turned for Steve. He discovered a way to reprogram his mind to attract everything he needed, and to put systems in place that got his life back on track.

He used a combination of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) techniques and a specific framework for happiness and success, and from it he developed the Dream Life Mastery program for getting the results he wanted.

Today he’s a licensed Clinical Hypnotherapist and a self-made multimillionaire who manages 22 training certification programs in hypnosis and NLP.

Feel More Attractive follows the same order Steve used: change what goes on inside first, then put small systems in place, like the walking shoes left by the door and the phone charging outside the bedroom at night.

Jeraldine Saunders, creator of The Love Boat TV series, wrote this about Steve’s work:

“No wonder Steve is the leader in hypnotherapy”

WOW! No wonder Steve is the leader in hypnotherapy. How lucky are those who have had the benefit of his genius!

Steve Has Practiced Hypnotherapy And NLP Since The 1980s

Dr. Steve G. Jones is a licensed Clinical Hypnotherapist and self-made multimillionaire who developed the Dream Life Mastery Program to help other people reach their goals and make incredible breakthroughs in their own lives.

• Life and business coach to top Hollywood directors, sports stars and CEOs.
• President of the American Alliance of Hypnotists and of the American Union of NLP.
• Member of the American Board of Hypnotherapy and the National Guild of Hypnotists, and an associate member of the American Psychological Association.
• Four degrees: a B.A. in Psychology from the University of Florida (1994), an M.Ed. from Armstrong Atlantic State University (2007), and an Ed.S. (2009) and Ed.D. (2013) from Georgia Southern University.

“You keep the promises you make to yourself. Each one you keep, however small, builds your trust in yourself, and that quiet confidence shines out of you.”

Self-Care Advice Is Everywhere, And It Still Ends Up At The Bottom Of The List

Most people could recite the advice: sleep more, drink water, move every day and make time for yourself. Plenty have tried it for a week or two, until a busy patch arrived and it quietly dropped away.

The advice is sound. What it runs into is the habit of coming last, along with a belief that caring for yourself is a little selfish, or a little pointless at your age. Advice tells you what to do, and that belief decides whether you ever get around to doing it.

Feel More Attractive works on the belief first, with permission to put yourself on your own list, and then it makes the habits easy: walking shoes left by the door, a bottle of water close by, and the phone charging outside the bedroom at night.

Add Up The Hours That Go On Yeses You Didn’t Mean

These numbers only count the time spent on favors you would rather have turned down, so leave everything else about your week as it is.

Those hours had somewhere else to go: an earlier night, a walk, an evening with friends, or something that’s yours alone.

Change the numbers until they look like your week. The track’s pause, one slow breath and “Let me think about that,” gives you a moment to choose where those hours go.

Six Daily Habits Inside Feel More Attractive

Each one adds a little wood to the fire, and between them they answer all five habits above.

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