“The It-Matters Flutter”
You welcome the little flutter you feel before you ask. Whenever you feel it, you take it as a sign that something matters to you, and you stop reading it as a warning.
From Stop Fear of Rejection“Would you maybe like to get a coffee sometime?”
says the message you have typed, deleted and typed again eleven times since nine o’clock
If you have ever sat with your thumb over the send button like this, the next part will feel very familiar.
Your heart is thumping hard enough to feel in your throat, and your mouth has gone dry.
You take out “maybe,” then put it back. You add “No pressure at all!!” and then “Totally fine if not haha,” so that if the answer is no, you can pretend you never really meant it.
What if they say no? Worse, what if they say nothing at all?
So you do what you have done a hundred times before. You delete the whole thing and send “Have a great weekend!” instead.
A thumbs-up comes back.
You put the phone face down and feel a strange mix of relief and disappointment that sits in your stomach for the rest of the night.
The worst part shows up on Monday.
Someone mentions, quite casually, that the person you were going to ask went for coffee at the weekend with someone from the office upstairs.
That person didn’t rehearse anything. They simply asked.
You smile and say “Oh, nice,” and go back to your desk with your face burning.
Then the bigger picture arrives, the one you have been avoiding. You don’t ask for the coffee, and you don’t ask for the raise either, or the window seat, or the thing you would love from the people closest to you. You treat every possible no as a verdict on your whole worth, so the safest choice always seems to be not asking at all.
You feel invisible, and a bit of a coward, and you are tired of it.
Somewhere between the coffee machine and your desk, you decide that something has to change.
When asking feels this risky, there are three ways to live
Asking freely is what the rest of this page is about.
Most advice about rejection is either harsh or hollow.
There are the challenges where you ask a hundred strangers for ridiculous things to “burn out the fear,” which most people would never do. There are the posters that say “Nothing ventured, nothing gained,” as if you hadn’t worked that out. And there is “Just stop caring what people think,” from people who obviously never cared to begin with.
None of it helps with your thumb over that button.
The people who study rejection found something kinder
One well-known theory describes the sting of rejection as a gauge, a signal about belonging that can be read and learned from, rather than a measure of what a person is worth.
In experiments, people who treated themselves kindly after a setback were more motivated to improve than people who were hard on themselves.
People who anxiously expect rejection tend to read it into neutral faces and short replies, and can end up acting in ways that bring it about.
And the core of the best-studied approach to social fear is small, safe practice, repeated until the fear shrinks.
Put that together and a calmer rule appears.
A no tells you about timing and fit, and that is all it tells you.
Dr. Steve G. Jones has built that rule into
three self-hypnosis tracks of simple moves for the moment before an ask and the moment after a no, 12 of them on this page
Each move hangs on a moment that keeps coming round: the flutter before you ask, a short reply, a no, walking into a room, a close moment with someone you love.
Together they work like an owner’s manual for putting yourself forward, without the armour.
The moment before you ask, the moment after a no, and the way you carry yourself into the room.
Now picture next Friday
Same phone, same thumb, a different person you would like to get to know.
The flutter comes, and this time you welcome it, because it means something matters. You stand up, grow a little taller, let one easy breath out and say to yourself, “Asking is how I find out.”
You type “Would you like to get a coffee on Saturday?” with no “maybe” and no “haha,” and you press send.
Before any reply comes, you tell yourself, “Well done. That was brave,” and that evening you put a small mark on your calendar.
Whatever the answer turns out to be, you know what you will do with it. A yes, and you enjoy it. A no, and you say thank you and ask yourself where to ask next. And a small voice asks, “Where did THAT come from?”
That Friday is built from suggestions on Stop Fear of Rejection, rehearsed in the spring park until they feel ordinary. Steve gives you the heart of it in one line:
“You stand tall and let one easy breath out, and you say to yourself, ‘Asking is how I find out.’”
Dr. Steve G. Jones, on the Stop Fear of Rejection track
Some kites catch the wind and some come down, and every launch teaches you about the wind.
The fear of no reaches further than first dates.
Asking freely is the core skill, and Stop Fear of Rejection trains it from every side.
Inside a relationship, the fear of no often turns into silence about the things that matter most: what you enjoy, what you would like more of, and what you need to feel close. Ultimate Intimacy Boost helps you share those things warmly, as an invitation, in a home where yes and “not tonight” can both be said kindly.
And much of the fear starts before you open your mouth, with the way you feel about yourself as you walk in. Feel Attractive Now helps you feel good in your own skin today, stand tall, smile and look for one friendly face.
The ask, the closeness and the walk into the room: put them side by side and you get what this page calls
The Kite Methodafter the spring afternoon on the first track, where a gust dips the kite and you simply lift it again
The name stuck because all three tracks teach the same thing in different places. Launch it, learn from the wind, and launch it again.
And that brings us to you.
These tracks teach you to ask, and to respect every no
These tracks don’t promise yeses, dates, jobs or money. Nobody honest could. They teach you to ask, and to take every answer with grace, which includes respecting another person’s no completely. Nothing on them teaches pushing past it.
That is what makes asking feel safe again, for everyone.
And if the fear ever feels too strong to handle on your own, or starts to get in the way of work or study, Steve says on the track that you talk with a counsellor or therapist and let them support you as you grow.
How can listening make asking easier?
By practice, in the safest place there is. Each track first guides you into deep, comfortable relaxation. On Stop Fear of Rejection you stand in a wide, open park on a bright, breezy spring afternoon, with daffodils, cut grass and kites in the sky, and Steve counts down as your own kite climbs higher and you sink deeper. At six, a gust dips it, and it rises again.
Relaxed, you hear short, clear suggestions, followed by silences in which you see yourself asking, warmly and clearly.
The suggestions follow a simple pattern that researchers call an if-then plan, whenever this happens, I do that. That way the flutter in your stomach stops meaning “don’t” and starts meaning “stand tall.”
Listen every day, add one small real ask each day, and asking slowly becomes something you simply do.
Are you ready to press send?
Are you ready to hear a no and feel proud you asked?
Are you ready to say what you would love, to the person you love?
You read all three questions to the end, which says plenty about your answers.
Dr. Steve G. Jones has practised clinical hypnotherapy and NLP since the 1980s and coaches top Hollywood directors, sports stars and CEOs.
To take the sting out of no, the tracks had three jobs.
Here are 12 of the moves you rehearse with The Kite Method
“The Stand-Tall Ask”
Your thumb is over the send button and your heart is pounding. What now? You stand tall, let one easy breath out, say to yourself “Asking is how I find out,” and ask clearly with a warm smile.
From Stop Fear of Rejection“The Where-Next Question”
Whenever someone says no, you take it as information, and you ask yourself, “What can I learn, and where shall I ask next?”
From Stop Fear of Rejection“The Pat-On-The-Back”
Whenever you hear a no, you give yourself credit for asking: “Well done. That was brave.” The courage counts, whatever the answer.
From Stop Fear of Rejection“The Ask-A-Day Tally”
Every day you make one small ask, and each evening you put a small mark on your calendar for every ask you made. You count asks, not yeses, and the marks start to add up fast.
From Stop Fear of Rejection“The Expect-The-Best Read”
A short reply or a busy face no longer reads as a no in disguise. You give people the benefit of the doubt and walk up to them expecting the best.
From Stop Fear of RejectionAnd so much more…
“The Cup-Of-Tea Invitation”
In a calm moment, perhaps on a walk or over a cup of tea, you share one thing you love about being close to your partner, or one thing you would like more of, warmly and simply, as an invitation.
From Ultimate Intimacy Boost“The Free-Either-Way Answer”
You and your partner both feel free to say yes, and free to say, “Not tonight, but come and hold me.” Once a no can be that kind, asking gets a great deal easier.
From Ultimate Intimacy Boost“The Taller-Through-The-Door”
Whenever you stand up, and whenever you walk through a doorway, you grow a little taller, shoulders relaxed back and down, chin lifted just a little.
From Feel Attractive Now“The One-Friendly-Face Entrance”
When you walk into a room, you pause, take one slow breath, stand tall, smile, and look for one friendly face to give your attention to.
From Feel Attractive NowThere isn’t room here for the evening phone that charges in another room, the kind word you answer an old critical thought with, or the moment someone lifts a camera…
“The Let-It-In Thank-You”
Whenever someone pays you a compliment, you smile, say thank you and let it in. For someone who fears the no, learning to hear the yes matters too.
From Feel Attractive Now“The Step-Back-Inside”
you catch yourself watching from the outside in a close moment, worrying how you look. You take one slow breath and step back inside your body, into what you feel right now.
From Ultimate Intimacy BoostWho the heck is Steve?
Dr. Steve G. Jones is a licensed Clinical Hypnotherapist, and you won’t find a single “ask a hundred strangers” challenge on these tracks. He has practised clinical hypnotherapy and NLP since the 1980s.
He knows about setbacks first-hand. Career detours and failed business ventures once left him $80,000 in credit card debt, with collection agencies at the door, living out of his office after being evicted. He reprogrammed his mind, put systems in place and got his life back on track.
Today he manages 22 training certification programs in hypnosis and NLP, at one time had 30,000 students enrolled in his programs, and holds a Doctorate in Education from Georgia Southern University.
What people who know Steve’s hypnosis programs say about him
“I’ve been inspired to live out my dreams”
My appreciation for your work and the positive impact it’s made on my life is far more than I’m able to describe here. However, I’ve been inspired to live out my dreams and have actually taken real steps towards its realization in the past few months. Your Fan, Student & Friend.
“the best in his field”
Dr. Steve G. Jones is without a doubt the best in his field.
“open a new door to a new path”
I would highly recommend you and your site to anyone who is fed up with the way things are now, this minute, and want to open a new door to a new path. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
“among the best in the world”
Being someone who is extremely familiar with the power of hypnosis, I can say without a shadow of a doubt that Clinical Hypnotherapist Steve G. Jones is among the best in the world.
“I just listen and notice the change.”
I have been lucky enough to be able to listen to Steve Jones’ recordings for about 7 or 8 years. I have always believed in hypnosis and have found these recordings to be effective and very useful. I just listen and notice the change.
These people are describing Steve’s hypnosis work in general, not this edition.
Can you feel what that would be like?
The little rush of pride as the message goes, whatever comes back.
How much would it be worth to press send on the messages you have been deleting for years?
How much would it be worth to hear a no and feel proud you asked?
How much would it be worth to walk into a room standing tall and looking for a friendly face?
And how much would it be worth to tell the person you love what you would love, warmly and simply?
Most people let the fear decide for them.
Year after year the coffee isn’t asked for, the raise isn’t mentioned and the wish isn’t spoken. Every unasked question is a no you gave yourself before anyone else had the chance.
Think about that for a moment.
What would be a fair price for the courage to ask?
You can check every number, because each track is sold on its own at dreamlifetrack.com. Stop Fear of Rejection is $29.95, Ultimate Intimacy Boost is $29.95 and Feel Attractive Now is $29.95.
Bought one by one, that comes to $89.85.
The Stop Fear of Rejection Complete Edition puts all three in one order, for less than the cost of two and a half:
one payment of $69.95so $19.90 stays with you, and you didn’t even have to ask
Your order is backed by our 30-Day, No-Questions-Asked, 100% Satisfaction Guarantee.
The order to take them in
Steve suggests staying with one track for 21 days. Start with Stop Fear of Rejection and the daily ask, move on to Feel Attractive Now for the way you carry yourself, and keep Ultimate Intimacy Boost for the asks you make in your closest relationship. The three are priced together as one plan, which is why they cost less as a set.
It all comes as an instant download.
And because asking you to buy is itself an ask…
Here is a no you can say any time in the next 30 days.
Order the Stop Fear of Rejection Complete Edition, download the tracks and listen every day. Make your daily asks and mark them on the calendar.
If at any point in those 30 days you don’t feel 100% happy with your purchase, email support and every penny comes back. We will take that no as information, with grace.
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Each track in the Stop Fear of Rejection Complete Edition, and what it trains
Track oneStop Fear of Rejection
For asking, reaching out and putting yourself forward. A routine for the flutter before you ask, a no taken as information, credit for every ask and one small ask a day, rehearsed in a breezy spring park full of kites.
Sold on its own for $29.95
Track twoUltimate Intimacy Boost
For closeness in a relationship. Everyday affection, being relaxed and present, talking kindly about what you enjoy, and both of you free to say yes or “not tonight”, rehearsed while floating in a warm mountain spring.
Sold on its own for $29.95
Track threeFeel Attractive Now
For feeling good in your own skin today. A kind reply at the mirror, growing taller through every doorway, a simple routine for walking into a room, and letting compliments in, rehearsed in a summer mountain meadow.
Sold on its own for $29.95
Add it all up and here is where you land.
| Stop Fear of Rejection, sold on its own | $29.95 |
| Ultimate Intimacy Boost, sold on its own | $29.95 |
| Feel Attractive Now, sold on its own | $29.95 |
| The three bought one by one at dreamlifetrack.com | $89.85 |
| The Stop Fear of Rejection Complete Edition | $69.95 |
Click the button and ClickBank takes your payment on the next page. Right after that, you download the tracks as MP3 files for your phone, tablet or computer. Headphones, a comfortable spot, and you are ready.
Ask once, pay once: $69.95 for the full edition.
Picture the year ahead with a calendar full of marks
You ask for the coffee, the window seat and the Friday afternoon off, and you say thank you to every answer.
A short reply gets the benefit of the doubt, and you get on with your day.
You walk into rooms a little taller, looking for one friendly face.
At home you say, over a cup of tea, “I love it when we take our time,” and you offer it as the gift it is.
And the calendar on your wall is covered in small marks, each one a moment you were brave.
Right now there are two buttons in front of you.
Nobody learns to fly a kite on a still day.
Do you know how anyone learns to fly a kite? They launch it, it comes down, and they lift it again. There is no other way to learn the wind.
Asking is learned the same way. Each ask teaches you something, and none of them, yes or no, is wasted.
If the gap between your thumb and the send button feels a mile wide, make one small decision.
The kite is in your hands and the breeze is up. Launch it.
P.S. Make your daily asks for up to 30 days and count the marks on the calendar. If you aren’t 100% happy, email support@dreamlifeprogram.com and every penny comes back, no questions asked.
P.P.S. On their own, these three tracks sell for $29.95 each, $89.85 together. The Stop Fear of Rejection Complete Edition gives you all three and all 12 moves on this page for $69.95, as an instant download, so tonight could hold the first mark on your calendar.
“Yes! I’m ready to ask freely, take every answer as information and say what I would love to the people who matter.”
