“The Count-On-Me Promise”
Each morning you make yourself one small promise for the day, and you keep it. Every kept promise tells your mind, “I can count on me,” and your trust in yourself grows from there.
From Learn to Trust Again“I would never do that to you.”
he says across the little café table on your third date, after you tell him a small piece of what happened last time
If anyone has ever said those words to you after you had been badly let down, you may know the sound your own voice makes next.
“That’s what they all say,” you hear yourself answer, with a laugh that isn’t really a laugh.
His face falls a little. Your arms are folded, although you don’t remember folding them, and there is a tight band around your chest that wasn’t there five minutes ago.
He seems kind, he turned up on time and he asked about your sister.
So why can’t I believe a word of it? Why am I already waiting for the catch?
You change the subject, check your phone, and say you have an early start.
Outside, he asks if he can see you again. You say “Maybe,” and you can see that he heard the full stop at the end of it.
At one in the morning you are still awake, looking for the catch.
You are on his profiles, scrolling back through years of photos, checking who comments, reading old posts for clues.
You find nothing at all. There is a dog, a mother he clearly adores and a very bad haircut from 2016.
And that is somehow worse, because now the problem is sitting right there on your side of the screen.
The thought that keeps you awake is the one you have been carrying since it happened: I can’t trust my own judgement. Look who I picked last time.
So you keep the armour on, and it gets heavier every month. You feel foolish, guarded and very much alone, and the person you were before the last one feels further away than ever.
After a betrayal, there are really only three ways to go
Most people swing between the first two for years. This page is about the third.
Most of the advice after a betrayal swings you the wrong way.
Friends say “Don’t let one bad apple spoil the barrel,” which would be helpful if you knew which apples were bad. The internet says “Trust, but verify,” and hands you a list of ways to check someone’s phone. Dating blogs say play it cool and never let them see you care.
None of it touches the real wound, which is that you no longer trust the one person who has to make every choice: you.
The people who study trust found something far more useful
Psychologists who study close relationships describe trust as something that builds over time from what a person repeatedly does. First you learn that they are predictable, then that they are dependable, and only then does faith come.
Other research found that being betrayed by one person lowers our trust even in strangers who had nothing to do with it. The old hurt quietly spreads to new people.
Self-trust follows a similar rule. The strongest source of belief in yourself is your own experience of doing what you said you would, again and again, even in small things.
And people who anxiously expect to be rejected or let down can end up behaving in ways that bring it about, which is how the fear keeps proving itself right.
Trust is something you can give in small pieces, and watch.
Dr. Steve G. Jones has built that into
three self-hypnosis tracks of calm, small steps you rehearse while you are deeply relaxed, 12 of them laid out below
Each step is tied to a moment you already know: a promise you make yourself, meeting someone new, the old doubt whispering, a phone lighting up.
Taken together, the three tracks work like an owner’s manual for your own judgement, which is the thing a betrayal damages most.
Your own instincts, and the pace at which you let someone in.
Now go back to that café table
Same café, a few dates later. You have just told him something small that matters to you, a little piece of trust, and you are watching what he does with it.
The old doubt pipes up right on time: he’ll let you down too.
This time you take one slow breath and ask yourself a question you have rehearsed many times with your eyes closed. What has this person actually shown me?
The answer comes from what you have seen with your own eyes, here and now, and it is calm and clear.
So you say, kindly and plainly, “I like to hear from you when plans change,” and you watch how he responds.
Walking home, you notice your arms are loose at your sides, and a small voice in your head asks, “Where did THAT come from?”
That is the pace Learn to Trust Again teaches. On the track, Steve puts it like this:
“Whenever someone new comes into your life, you offer them a small piece of trust, the way your foot tests a stone.”
Dr. Steve G. Jones, on the Learn to Trust Again track
Every stone that holds earns the next step, and your own feet are what you rely on.
Trusting yourself again opens two more doors.
Once your own judgement is back, you can afford to meet people again, which is where Magnet For Love comes in. It takes you out of the house, gives you one friendly sentence for the moment you share, and gives the old doubt a smile instead of the final say.
And when someone new does get close, the old hurt can flare up as jealousy the first time their phone lights up at midnight. Overcome Jealousy gives you a way to let that feeling settle, check it against the facts and talk about it openly later.
Lay the three tracks down like stones across water and you have what this page calls
The Stepping-Stone Methodafter the ten stones across the garden pond on the first track, each one tested before you give it your weight
The name fits all three tracks, because each one moves at the same pace. One small, tested step at a time.
Which brings us to you, and your next step.
These tracks never ask you to trust anyone who hasn’t earned it
No recording can promise that nobody will ever hurt you again, and these tracks don’t try to. They never ask you to trust someone who hasn’t earned it, and they never ask you to stay with anyone who harms you. What they build is your own steady judgement, so that you give only what has been earned.
If someone frightens you, controls you or hurts you, please reach out to a local domestic abuse helpline or a professional. That needs real-world help, and you deserve it.
And as Steve says on the track, if old hurts ever feel heavy, you talk with a counsellor or therapist and let a good listener help you carry them.
How does a recording rebuild something as deep as trust?
Slowly, and by repetition. Each track begins by guiding you into deep, comfortable relaxation. On Learn to Trust Again you sit in a quiet garden on a mild autumn afternoon, with red and gold maples, a bamboo water spout and ten stepping stones leading across a pond to a little tea house.
Once you are relaxed, Steve gives you short, clear suggestions and then falls silent so that you can see yourself carrying each one out.
Every suggestion links a moment to a response. Psychologists call that an if-then plan, whenever this happens, I do that, and it means the old doubt itself becomes the signal to breathe and ask your question.
Listen every day and those small steps become the way you naturally move.
Are you ready to trust your own judgement again?
Are you ready to meet new people without the armour on?
Are you ready to let someone good in, one tested step at a time?
Still reading? Then you already know how you would answer all three.
Dr. Steve G. Jones has practised clinical hypnotherapy and NLP since the 1980s. These tracks put that experience to work on one of the hardest things a person can rebuild.
Rebuilding trust safely meant the tracks had to get three things right.
Here are 12 of the steps you rehearse with The Stepping-Stone Method
“The ‘Shown Me’ Question”
The old doubt says this one will be just like the last one. What do you do? One slow breath, and one question: “What has this person actually shown me?” The answer comes from what you have seen here and now.
From Learn to Trust Again“The Small-Piece Offer”
Someone new gets a small piece of trust to begin with, never the whole thing. You test it the way your foot tests a stone, and only when it holds do you give a little more.
From Learn to Trust Again“The Taken-Seriously Feeling”
Whenever you meet someone new, you notice how you feel in their company and you take that feeling seriously. You may find you stop arguing with your own instincts.
From Learn to Trust Again“The Evening Look-Back”
Each evening before you rest, you notice one promise you kept to yourself and one moment when someone showed you they could be relied on. Quiet evidence, collected every day.
From Learn to Trust Again“The Clear-And-Kind Say-So”
Whenever something matters to you, you say so clearly and kindly, and you see how the other person responds. What they do next tells you a great deal.
From Learn to Trust AgainAnd so much more…
“The Hello-Anyway Smile”
Whenever the doubt whispers that they won’t be interested, you smile at it like an old friend, take one breath and say hello anyway.
From Magnet For Love“The Safe-First-Meeting Plan”
When you meet someone new, you choose a public place and let a friend know where you are, so you can relax and enjoy yourself.
From Magnet For Love“The ‘There’s That Old Feeling’ Name”
Whenever you feel the familiar tightness in your chest or stomach, you recognise it straight away and name it quietly. A feeling you have named is easier to settle.
From Overcome Jealousy“The Settling-Snow Breath”
One long, slow breath, with the breath out a little longer than the breath in, your feet on the floor, and the feeling left to swirl and settle like snow in a quiet valley. Practise it once when you are calm, so it is ready when you are not.
From Overcome JealousyThere isn’t room here for the four words that start a calm conversation later, the two good thoughts each evening, or what you do instead of scrolling through other people’s photos…
“The What-Do-I-Know Check”
When your imagination starts filling in a story about someone new, one long, slow breath comes first, then the question “What do I actually know?” From there, the facts lead.
From Overcome Jealousy“The Face-Down Swap”
the urge to check their phone, or to ask a sharp question, is pulling at you. You turn that energy towards something good for you: your own phone goes face down, and you do something you enjoy.
From Overcome JealousyWho is Steve, and why trust him?
Fair question, on a page about trust. Dr. Steve G. Jones is a licensed Clinical Hypnotherapist who has practised clinical hypnotherapy and NLP since the 1980s. You won’t find any “trust, but verify” tricks on these tracks.
He is President of the American Alliance of Hypnotists and of the American Union of NLP, a member of the American Board of Hypnotherapy and the National Guild of Hypnotists, and an associate member of the American Psychological Association. He holds a Doctorate in Education from Georgia Southern University.
His own life fell apart once. He lost his mother at an early age, grew up with a father who battled alcohol abuse, and later found himself $80,000 in credit card debt and living out of his office after being evicted. He rebuilt by reprogramming his mind and putting systems in place, step by step, and today he manages 22 training certification programs in hypnosis and NLP.
What people say about Dr. Steve G. Jones and his hypnosis work
“Steve G. Jones is among the best in the world”
Being someone who is extremely familiar with the power of hypnosis, I can say without a shadow of a doubt that Clinical Hypnotherapist Steve G. Jones is among the best in the world.
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“I have always believed in hypnosis”
I have been lucky enough to be able to listen to Steve Jones’ recordings for about 7 or 8 years. I have always believed in hypnosis and have found these recordings to be effective and very useful. I just listen and notice the change.
“the best in his field”
Dr. Steve G. Jones is without a doubt the best in his field.
“I would highly recommend you and your site”
I would highly recommend you and your site to anyone who is fed up with the way things are now, this minute, and want to open a new door to a new path. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
These words are about Steve’s hypnosis programs in general, not about this edition.
Can you feel what that would be like?
Your shoulders coming down from around your ears. Your arms unfolding. The tight band around your chest letting go a notch.
What would it be worth to believe your own instincts again?
What would it be worth to sit across from someone kind without searching for the catch?
What would it be worth to let a phone light up without your stomach dropping?
And what would it be worth to say what you need, clearly and kindly, and watch who rises to it?
Most people carry the armour for years.
They tell themselves it is protection. Meanwhile kind people drift away after the third date, the evenings stay quiet, and the person who hurt them goes on taking up space they never earned.
Take a moment with that.
What is a fair price for all three tracks?
You can check it yourself, because each track has its own page at dreamlifetrack.com. Learn to Trust Again sells for $29.95, Magnet For Love for $29.95 and Overcome Jealousy for $29.95.
Bought separately, that adds up to $89.85.
The Learn to Trust Again Complete Edition gives you all three in a single order, for less than the price of two and a half:
one payment of $69.95$19.90 less than buying them one by one
Your order is backed by our 30-Day, No-Questions-Asked, 100% Satisfaction Guarantee.
One step, then the next
Steve suggests staying with one track for 21 days, and these three go in a natural order. Start with Learn to Trust Again and your own judgement, go on to Magnet For Love when you feel ready to meet people, then add Overcome Jealousy for the moments when someone new gets close. Priced together, the edition is the whole path in one order.
Everything comes as an instant download.
And because this whole page is about trust that has to be earned…
You don’t have to trust this page. You have 30 days to test it.
Order the Learn to Trust Again Complete Edition, download the three tracks and listen every day. Try the steps on real people, real promises and real doubts.
If at any time in the next 30 days you don’t feel 100% happy with your purchase, email support and every penny comes back. Test the stone before you put your weight on it.
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The three tracks you get in the Learn to Trust Again Complete Edition
Track oneLearn to Trust Again
Trust in your own judgement, rebuilt with small promises kept, then trust given step by step to people who earn it. Rehearsed on ten stepping stones across a garden pond in autumn.
Sold on its own for $29.95
Track twoMagnet For Love
For when you are ready to meet someone. Saying yes to invitations, one friendly sentence, a safe first meeting in a public place, and a smile for the doubt that says they won’t be interested. Rehearsed on a summer terrace above a village.
Sold on its own for $29.95
Track threeOvercome Jealousy
For the jealous moment inside a relationship. Name the feeling, breathe it down, check the facts and talk openly later instead of checking or accusing. Rehearsed in a still, snowy valley.
Sold on its own for $29.95
Let’s put the numbers side by side.
| Learn to Trust Again, sold on its own | $29.95 |
| Magnet For Love, sold on its own | $29.95 |
| Overcome Jealousy, sold on its own | $29.95 |
| The three tracks bought separately | $89.85 |
| The Learn to Trust Again Complete Edition | $69.95 |
Click the button and ClickBank, the retailer, takes your payment securely on the next page. Then you download your tracks as MP3 files that play on a phone, tablet or computer. Headphones and a quiet place to lie back are all you need.
Three tracks, one payment of $69.95, and 30 days to test the stone.
Imagine a year from now
You make a promise to yourself in the morning and you keep it, and it feels ordinary.
You meet someone new and notice how you feel in their company, and you believe what you notice.
A phone lights up at midnight and you breathe out slowly and go back to your book.
Someone who has earned it gets your trust, a little more each month, and you feel safe giving it because you know exactly how it was earned.
The next kind person gets either the armour or the stepping stones.
Nobody crosses a pond by staring at the far bank.
You cross a pond by testing the stone in front of you, and then the next one.
Trust works the same way. It never asks you to leap. It asks you to take one small, tested step, and to notice that it held.
If the far bank feels impossibly far away right now, you don’t need to look at it. Just take the first step.
The first stone is right at your feet. Step onto it and feel it hold.
P.S. On a page about trust, here is a promise you can check. Use the tracks for up to 30 days, and if you aren’t 100% happy, email support@dreamlifeprogram.com and you get every penny back, no questions asked.
P.P.S. Each track sells on its own for $29.95, and the three bought separately come to $89.85. The Learn to Trust Again Complete Edition is $69.95 for all three tracks and all 12 steps on this page, as an instant download, so you could be sitting in that autumn garden a few minutes from now.
“Yes! I’m ready to trust my own judgement, meet people without the armour on and let good people in, one tested step at a time.”
