Jealousy Asks For Proof, And No Amount Of Checking Ever Gives It Enough

The Message That Makes Them Smile

It’s a quiet evening on the sofa. Their phone lights up, they smile at the message and type a quick reply, and the stomach drops before a single thought has formed. “Who’s that?” comes out lighter than it feels, and the answer is easy and ordinary, “just Sam from work”, but somehow it doesn’t settle anything.

Later, when they’re in the shower, the phone is sitting right there. A quick look finds nothing, and the relief lasts about a minute. Then a new question turns up. Why does Sam message at this time of night? By the time they come back, the questions are lined up, the evening turns into twenty of them, and it finishes with a fight neither of them wanted.

Next morning there’s an apology and a promise not to do it again. A few days later the phone lights up, and the whole thing starts over.

(If phones aren’t where it shows up for you, the same pattern sits behind a partner laughing warmly with someone at a party, a colleague’s name that comes up once too often, or plans that sound a little vague.)

“Your imagination is powerful, and sometimes it writes a whole story in a moment. So you ask yourself one quiet question. “What do I actually know?””

Steve knows what it is to rebuild from a low point. He was once $80,000 in credit card debt and living out of his office after being evicted, and how he turned his life around is further down this page.

Checking seems like the sensible thing to do with a jealous feeling. Find the facts, and the feeling should go away. A jealous mind, though, is busy with the story it wrote in the first second, and every check gives that story something new to work with.

That’s why one look at a phone answers one question and opens three more. Studies of couples link this kind of checking, and the brooding that goes with it, to lower trust and less happy relationships, which is the opposite of what the person checking wanted.

And because the questions come out while the feeling is still swirling, they come out sharp. A sharp question gets a defensive answer, the defensive answer sounds suspicious, and the story gets its next chapter.

Call it the Proof Hunt. It usually starts with caring a great deal about someone, so it says very little about anyone’s character. The trouble is the order: the questions come first and the calm comes later, if at all. Turning that order around is what this track was designed for.

From $80,000 In Debt And Living Out Of His Office To Self-Made Multimillionaire

Steve lost his mother at an early age and grew up with his father, who battled alcohol abuse.

Later in life he went through a lot of career detours and failed business ventures, and he soon found himself $80,000 in credit card debt. Financial institutions and collection agencies were beating down on his door. He held on as long as he could, until he was evicted from his own place and had to live out of his office, which he was about to lose as well.

Think about what getting up for work looks like when the office is also where you live, and you know it’s about to go too. That was where things turned for Steve. He discovered a way to reprogram his mind to attract everything he needed, and to put systems in place that got his life back on track.

He used a combination of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) techniques and a specific framework for happiness and success, and from it he developed the Dream Life Mastery program for getting the results he wanted.

Today he’s a licensed Clinical Hypnotherapist and a self-made multimillionaire who manages 22 training certification programs in hypnosis and NLP.

Overcome Jealousy follows the same order Steve used: settle what goes on inside first, and then put simple habits in place for the moments that used to set the old feeling off.

Jeraldine Saunders, creator of The Love Boat TV series, wrote this about Steve’s work:

“No wonder Steve is the leader in hypnotherapy”

WOW! No wonder Steve is the leader in hypnotherapy. How lucky are those who have had the benefit of his genius!

Steve Has Practiced Hypnotherapy And NLP Since The 1980s

Dr. Steve G. Jones is a licensed Clinical Hypnotherapist and self-made multimillionaire who developed the Dream Life Mastery Program to help other people reach their goals and make incredible breakthroughs in their own lives.

• Life and business coach to top Hollywood directors, sports stars and CEOs.
• President of the American Alliance of Hypnotists and of the American Union of NLP.
• Member of the American Board of Hypnotherapy and the National Guild of Hypnotists, and an associate member of the American Psychological Association.
• Four degrees: a B.A. in Psychology from the University of Florida (1994), an M.Ed. from Armstrong Atlantic State University (2007), and an Ed.S. (2009) and Ed.D. (2013) from Georgia Southern University.

“Over the years, I’ve worked with many clients one on one. Many of whom have gone on to achieve phenomenal success.”

“We’ve Talked About It, Again And Again”

Plenty of couples have had the talk many times. One promises not to check, the other promises to be more open, and for a week or two it holds.

Those talks usually happen straight after a fight, while both people are still upset, so they turn into a debate about who was right. And a promise not to check is a promise to fight a habit with willpower, which tends to make the urge stronger.

Overcome Jealousy changes when and how the talking happens. You let the feeling settle first, so you speak from a calm and loving place, and you give the urge to check something better to do. Each honest conversation like that brings the two of you a little closer.

What The Jealous Story Costs You In Hours

These numbers only count the time spent checking, wondering and replaying, so leave everything else about your week as it is.

Time is only part of the cost. Those minutes also go on arguments, on apologies and on evenings that should have been easy.

Change the numbers until they look like your week. That tally keeps growing for as long as the story keeps getting written.

What Overcome Jealousy Teaches You To Do When A Phone Lights Up

Each one goes after the jealous story at a different point, and between them they answer all five faults.

When It Arrives, What It Plays On And How The Refund Works