“The Old-Feeling Nod”
Whenever you feel that familiar tightness in your chest or your stomach, you recognise it straight away and say quietly, “There’s that old feeling.” Naming it early is half the work.
From Overcome Jealousy“Who’s Alex?”
you hear yourself ask, before you have even decided to speak, as their phone lights up on the bedside table
If a name on someone else’s screen has ever done this to you, you will recognise every second of what follows.
Your stomach drops as if the floor had gone. Heat rushes up your neck, and your mind is three chapters into a story before your partner is back from brushing their teeth.
“A colleague,” they say, picking it up. “Why?”
Why do I feel like this over one line? And why can’t I just let it go?
“No reason,” you say, in a voice with a sharp edge you can hear yourself. Then, because you can’t stop it: “You’ve never mentioned an Alex.”
They sigh and say “Not this again,” very quietly, and turn the light off.
The silence is so thick you can hear the fridge humming downstairs.
At two in the morning, the worst part begins.
Their phone is face down on their side of the bed. You know the passcode.
You reach for it, stop, and lie back. Then you reach again.
When you finally look, you find a work thread about a spreadsheet and a thank-you for covering a meeting. That is all.
And instead of relief you feel something much worse. You feel small, suspicious and ashamed, like a person you don’t recognise and wouldn’t want to be with.
Beside you, they are sleeping peacefully, one arm thrown over their face. They look completely relaxed, and you are the one wide awake, guarding a danger that turned out to be a spreadsheet.
Lying there, you know this can’t go on.
When jealousy keeps flaring, a person can do one of three things
This page is about the third way.
Most of what you hear about jealousy pours fuel on it.
“Trust your gut, if you feel it there must be a reason.” Apps that let you track your partner’s location “for peace of mind.” The friend who says “Make them jealous back.” And the person who simply tells you “Just don’t be jealous,” as if you hadn’t thought of that at two in the morning.
None of it helps in the four seconds between the phone lighting up and the words leaving your mouth.
Psychologists looked closely at those four seconds
Brain studies found that simply putting a feeling into words, naming it, calms the brain’s alarm response.
Slow breathing with a longer breath out lowers the body’s arousal, which is why a single long out-breath can take the heat out of a moment.
Researchers who studied couples found that checking up on a partner and going over and over the same worries went with lower satisfaction in the relationship, and with less trust.
And couples who raise a worry gently, starting with their own feeling instead of an accusation, tend to have conversations that end far better than the ones that start harshly.
Put those together and a clear sequence appears.
Name it, breathe, check the facts, and talk later.
Dr. Steve G. Jones has turned that sequence into
three self-hypnosis tracks of calm, practical moves you rehearse while you are deeply relaxed, 12 of them on this page
Every move is fixed to a moment you know too well: a phone lighting up, a partner laughing with someone else, a late night out, a slow reply.
Together they work like an owner’s manual for the jealous moment, and for the insecurity underneath it.
The moment the feeling rises, the love you put your attention into, and the nights you spend apart.
Now picture the next time that phone lights up
Same bedside table, same buzz, another name you don’t know.
You feel the familiar tightness, and this time you recognise it straight away. There’s that old feeling.
You take one long, slow breath and let the breath out run a little longer than the breath in. Your feet are on the floor, and the feeling swirls for a moment and starts to settle.
Then you ask the question you have rehearsed so many times with your eyes closed: What do I actually know? You know it is a name on a screen, and you know the person you share your life with.
You put your own phone face down and pick up your book.
Over breakfast you say, “I felt a little insecure last night, and I’d love to talk about it,” and you listen. And somewhere in the middle of the conversation a small voice asks, “Where did THAT come from?”
That is the whole of Overcome Jealousy, played out at a bedside table. On the track, Steve says it in one sentence:
“When that old feeling rises, you let it settle like snow in a quiet valley, and you speak openly and kindly with the person you love.”
Dr. Steve G. Jones, on the Overcome Jealousy track
Once the air is clear, you look at the facts.
Jealousy rarely grows on its own.
Settling the moment is the first job, and Overcome Jealousy is built for it.
Very often, though, jealousy grows in the space where attention used to be. When two people stop turning towards each other, every name on a screen looks like a threat. Put the Spark Back puts fresh curiosity and warm attention back into your own relationship, so there is more of you in it and less room for fear.
And for many people the feeling is sharpest when the person they love is simply out of reach, working late or away for the weekend. Stop Fear of Abandonment helps you feel secure within yourself and stay calm and steady while they are away.
Settle the moment, warm the relationship, steady the nights apart, and you have what this page calls
The Settled Snow Methodafter the snowy valley on the first track, where a gust lifts fresh snow off a pine branch and the view comes back clearer than before
The name stuck because all three tracks do the same thing in different moments. They let the swirl settle, so you can see clearly.
And that brings us to you.
These tracks never tell you to ignore a real warning sign
These tracks don’t promise a life without jealousy, and they never tell you that a worry is wrong or that a partner is faithful. The track says “you let the facts guide you” for a reason. Real warning signs deserve real attention. What changes is how you get to the facts: calmly, with your phone face down, instead of at two in the morning with someone else’s.
If jealousy in your home ever comes with threats, control or violence, from either side, please get professional help. That is beyond any recording.
And if the old feeling ever seems too strong to settle on your own, Steve says on the track that you talk with a counsellor or a couples therapist, because asking for help is a wise and loving thing to do.
Can a recording really reach a feeling this fast?
It works by practice, long before the moment arrives. Each track first guides you into deep, comfortable relaxation. On Overcome Jealousy you stand in a wide snowy valley on a bright, still winter morning, with sparkling snow, white pines and the far-off smell of woodsmoke, while a gust lifts snow from a branch and Steve counts you down as it drifts and settles.
In that calm state he gives you short, clear suggestions, then goes silent so that you can rehearse each one in your imagination.
Each one is phrased as what psychologists call an if-then plan, whenever this happens, I do that, so a buzz from the bedside table turns into the signal for the long out-breath instead of the question.
Listen every day and you have practised the calm response many times before you ever need it.
Are you ready to let the feeling settle before it turns into words?
Are you ready to put your phone down instead of picking theirs up?
Are you ready to feel secure in love, even when they are out of sight?
If any of those three made you nod, you are in the right place.
Dr. Steve G. Jones has practised clinical hypnotherapy and NLP since the 1980s, and at one time 30,000 students were enrolled in his programs.
To help with jealousy, the tracks had three jobs to do.
Here are 12 of the moves you rehearse with The Settled Snow Method
“The Feet-On-The-Floor Pause”
The feeling is rising. What does your body do first? On this track it takes one long, slow breath, with the breath out a little longer than the breath in, and it feels your feet on the floor while the feeling swirls and settles.
From Overcome Jealousy“The Story-Stopper Question”
Whenever your imagination starts writing the story, you take one long, slow breath and ask, “What do I actually know?”, and you let the facts guide you.
From Overcome Jealousy“The Own-Phone-Down”
Whenever you feel the urge to check their phone or ask a sharp question, you put your own phone face down and do something you enjoy. Some evenings, you may finish a whole book.
From Overcome Jealousy“The Soft Start”
Later, when you are calm and the moment is right, you talk openly, perhaps with “I felt a little insecure earlier, and I would love to talk about it,” and then you listen fully.
From Overcome Jealousy“The Good-Time Send-Off”
Whenever they go out without you, you wish them a good time, and you mean it. At first it can feel like the hardest move on the track.
From Overcome JealousyAnd so much more…
“The Turn-Towards”
Whenever your partner says something, shows you something or reaches out for your attention, you turn towards them, look up and respond warmly.
From Put the Spark Back“The Said-Out-Loud Thank-You”
Each evening you find one thing you appreciate about your partner, and you say it out loud. Attention spent on what is good leaves less room for what you fear.
From Put the Spark Back“The Quiet-Phone Reminder”
Whenever a message you sent is slow to get a reply, you put your phone down, take one slow breath, and remind yourself that people are busy and that a quiet phone is simply a quiet phone.
From Stop Fear of Abandonment“The Plan-For-Me Evening”
Whenever someone you love goes away, for an evening or a trip, you plan something good for yourself. Time apart starts to feel like something to enjoy, which takes a little getting used to.
From Stop Fear of AbandonmentThere isn’t room here for the two good thoughts each evening, the fridge list of new things to try together, or the one calm sentence that asks for exactly what helps you…
“The Hand-On-Heart Anchor”
Whenever you notice the old fear flicker, a sinking feeling or a racing thought, you place a hand on your chest and say, “I am safe, and I am here for me.”
From Stop Fear of Abandonment“The First Warm Move”
you have been waiting for your partner to make the effort. Whenever you notice yourself waiting, you make one small, warm move yourself, and you let them answer in their own way and time.
From Put the Spark BackWho is the man behind the voice?
Dr. Steve G. Jones is a licensed Clinical Hypnotherapist, and he isn’t selling a tracking app. He has practised clinical hypnotherapy and NLP since the 1980s and manages 22 training certification programs in hypnosis and NLP.
His degrees run from a Bachelor’s in Psychology at the University of Florida to a Master’s in Education and, in 2013, a Doctorate in Education from Georgia Southern University.
He also knows what it is like when life falls apart. Career detours and failed businesses once left him $80,000 in credit card debt and living out of his office after being evicted. He turned it around by reprogramming his mind and putting systems in place, and today he coaches top Hollywood directors, sports stars and CEOs.
What people say about Dr. Steve G. Jones and his work in hypnosis
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“I just listen and notice the change.”
I have been lucky enough to be able to listen to Steve Jones’ recordings for about 7 or 8 years. I have always believed in hypnosis and have found these recordings to be effective and very useful. I just listen and notice the change.
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Being someone who is extremely familiar with the power of hypnosis, I can say without a shadow of a doubt that Clinical Hypnotherapist Steve G. Jones is among the best in the world.
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WOW! No wonder Steve is the leader in hypnotherapy. How lucky are those who have had the benefit of his genius!
They are speaking about Steve’s hypnosis work in general, not about this edition.
Do you feel it?
The loosening in your stomach when you imagine a phone lighting up and nothing happening inside you at all.
How much would it be worth to sleep through the night without reaching for someone else’s phone?
How much would it be worth to wish them a good time when they go out, and mean it?
How much would it be worth to talk about a worry calmly and feel closer afterwards?
And how much would it be worth to feel steady while they are away, in your own good company?
Most people just hope it will fade on its own.
Meanwhile the checking becomes a habit, the questions become a pattern, and the person they love starts saying “Not this again” more and more often, until one day they stop saying anything.
Think about that for a moment.
What would be a fair price for peace like that?
There is a real answer, because each of these tracks is sold separately at dreamlifetrack.com. Overcome Jealousy costs $29.95 by itself, Put the Spark Back costs $29.95 and Stop Fear of Abandonment costs $29.95.
One by one, the three would come to $89.85.
The Overcome Jealousy Complete Edition puts them in one order, at less than the price of two and a half:
one payment of $69.95and you keep $19.90
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How to use the three together
Steve suggests staying with one track for 21 days. Begin with Overcome Jealousy for the moment itself, then Put the Spark Back to bring your attention back into your own relationship, and then Stop Fear of Abandonment for the evenings and weekends apart. The edition prices the three as one plan, which is why they cost less together.
It all arrives as an instant download.
And to make the decision easy…
You have 30 days to try it at your own bedside.
Order the Overcome Jealousy Complete Edition, download the tracks and listen every day. Use the breath, the question and the phone face down when the moment comes.
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All three tracks in the Overcome Jealousy Complete Edition
Track oneOvercome Jealousy
For the jealous moment. Name the feeling, one long out-breath, “What do I actually know?”, your own phone face down, and an open, gentle talk later. Rehearsed in a still, snowy valley on a bright winter morning.
Sold on its own for $29.95
Track twoPut the Spark Back
For bringing your attention back to the one you love. Turning towards them, celebrating good news, a fresh question at the end of the day, appreciation said out loud and something new each week, rehearsed by a campfire under the stars.
Sold on its own for $29.95
Track threeStop Fear of Abandonment
For the evenings apart. One message and then letting it be, a plan for yourself when they go away, and a hand on your chest when the old fear flickers, rehearsed at the top of a white lighthouse above a calm sea.
Sold on its own for $29.95
Let’s add it all up.
| Overcome Jealousy, sold on its own | $29.95 |
| Put the Spark Back, sold on its own | $29.95 |
| Stop Fear of Abandonment, sold on its own | $29.95 |
| The three bought separately at dreamlifetrack.com | $89.85 |
| The Overcome Jealousy Complete Edition | $69.95 |
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Picture the months ahead
A phone lights up and you notice the old feeling, nod at it, and let it pass.
Your partner goes out with friends and you wave them off and settle in with a film you chose.
Each evening you tell them one thing you appreciate, out loud, and you notice how much more you laugh together.
When something does bother you, you bring it up calmly over breakfast, and the conversation leaves you both feeling closer.
The next time a phone lights up, it can go one of two ways.
The view across the valley comes back clearer than before.
Do you know what happens to fresh snow if you stop trying to grab it out of the air? It settles all by itself, and the view across the valley comes back clearer than it was before.
A jealous feeling does the same when you stop chasing it with questions and give it one long breath.
If the distance between where you are and that kind of calm feels enormous tonight, make it one small decision.
Let tonight be the first night the snow settles on its own.
P.S. Try the breath, the question and the face-down phone on real nights for up to 30 days. If you aren’t 100% happy, email support@dreamlifeprogram.com and every penny comes back, no questions asked.
P.P.S. At $29.95 each, the three tracks would cost $89.85 bought separately. The Overcome Jealousy Complete Edition gives you all three and all 12 moves on this page for $69.95, as an instant download, so tonight’s phone buzz could be the first one you meet with a long, slow breath.
“Yes! I’m ready to let the old feeling settle, talk openly with the person I love and feel secure, even when they are out of sight.”
