your partner says without looking up from their phone, after you tell them the best news you’ve had all month
If you have ever stood in your own living room holding good news that nobody wanted, you know how long the next second lasts.
Something small and cold drops in your chest. Your face goes warm, which is ridiculous, because this is the person you have shared a bed with for years.
You wait a moment in case more is coming. The thumb on the screen keeps scrolling.
When did we turn into flatmates? And when did I stop being interesting?
So you do what so many people do. You say “Never mind,” sit down at the other end of the sofa and pick up your own phone.
There you sit, two people on one sofa with two little blue glows, while the television talks to nobody.
Neither of you says another word until “Night, then.”
Lying in the dark, you think about reaching for their hand, or suggesting the two of you do something new on Saturday.
Then the thought arrives: what if they say “Not tonight, I’m shattered”? So you don’t.
They fall asleep within minutes. You scroll back through your photos until you find one from years ago: the two of you on a trip, salt in your hair, laughing so hard at something that the picture is blurred.
You look at it for a long time. You feel lonely in a way that makes no sense with someone breathing right next to you.
The love is still there. You can feel it. It just seems to be buried under bills, school runs and screens, and you have no idea who is supposed to dig first.
Lying there, you decide something has to change.
The rest of this page is about going first.
“Schedule a date night,” say the magazines, so you go to the same restaurant and order the same thing and talk about the same bills. The online lists of ways to “spice things up” make you want to hide. And then there is the shrug: “That’s just what happens after a few years. The honeymoon ends.”
You knew that couldn’t be the whole truth. You have that blurred photo to prove it.
Researchers who study couples found something hopeful
Couples who did new and exciting things together reported less boredom and a better relationship than couples who spent the same time on pleasant, familiar evenings. It was the newness that counted.
In a well-known study of newlyweds, the couples who stayed together turned towards each other’s small bids for attention, a comment, a question, a look, far more often than the couples who later split up.
How a partner responds to good news turned out to matter too. An enthusiastic, interested response went with more satisfaction and closeness day to day.
Gratitude said out loud predicted feeling more connected the next day. And couples who laugh together tend to report feeling closer.
Not one of those findings needs a grand gesture. They are all small things that one person can start.
The embers are still warm. They need fresh air and new kindling.
Dr. Steve G. Jones has gathered those small things into
Each habit is tied to a moment you already share: sitting down at the end of the day, a partner showing you something, good news, the urge to wait for them to go first.
Together they work like an owner’s manual for keeping love alive after the honeymoon is a distant memory.
The attention you give, the steadiness you feel, and the courage to go first.
Same sofa, same tired end of the day. Your partner holds out their phone and says, “Look at this.”
This time you look up, meet their eyes and laugh at the video with them, properly.
A few minutes later you ask a fresh question, one you rehearsed with your eyes closed: “What made you smile today?” And you listen to the answer as if it were the most interesting thing you will hear all week.
Before bed you write the first idea on a list on the fridge. Then you notice yourself waiting for them to make the next move, and you make one yourself, a hand on their shoulder on the way past.
The flutter before that small move doesn’t stop you. And a little voice asks, “Where did THAT come from?”
You will find every piece of that evening on Put the Spark Back, where Steve has you rehearse it with your eyes closed. He puts the whole idea in one sentence:
“And so, from today, you bring fresh curiosity and warm attention to the one you love, and the spark between you grows brighter each day.”
Dr. Steve G. Jones, on the Put the Spark Back track
Bringing the curiosity and attention back is the heart of it, and Put the Spark Back covers it fully.
The first fear is quieter. When a partner seems distant, tired or wrapped up in their phone, an old voice can whisper that they have gone off you. Stop Fear of Abandonment helps you feel secure within yourself, remember that people have moods of their own, and ask calmly for what helps you feel close.
The second fear is the one that kept your hand still in the dark: the fear of hearing no. Stop Fear of Rejection gives you a short routine for the moment before you ask, and a kind way to take a no as information about timing instead of a verdict on you.
Fresh air, a steady fire and the nerve to strike the match: together they make what this page calls
The name stuck because every track adds something small to the fire, whether it is attention, steadiness or a little courage.
Which brings us, at last, to you.
These tracks don’t promise that your partner will change, that a relationship will be saved, or that anything will happen by a certain date. Nothing on them tells your partner what to do. They change what you do, and in a long relationship one person changing the way they turn up each evening can change the feel of a whole home.
They are made for a loving relationship that has gone quiet.
If you are in a relationship that is abusive, controlling or unsafe, please contact a specialist service. Turning towards a partner is the wrong advice there, and you deserve real help. And if old hurts stand between you, Steve says on the track that you go out of your way to find a good couples counsellor, as one more way of caring for the love you share.
By rehearsal. Each track opens with deep, comfortable relaxation. On Put the Spark Back you sit by a small campfire in a quiet clearing on a clear, starry night, with the crackle of the wood, an owl somewhere and a mug of hot cocoa, and Steve counts you down as the flames settle into glowing embers.
While you are relaxed, he gives you short, clear suggestions, and then he goes silent so that you can see yourself doing each one with the person you love.
Researchers have a name for the shape of these suggestions, the if-then plan: whenever this happens, I do that. Rehearse the response to “Look at this” often enough on the track, and your eyes start coming up from the screen by themselves.
Listen every day, and the warm response starts to come before the old “Mm” does.
Are you ready to be the one who goes first?
Are you ready to feel steady when they seem far away?
Are you ready to laugh together like the couple in that blurred photo?
Somewhere in you, the answers to those three are already yes.
Whenever your partner says something to you, shows you something or reaches out for your attention, you turn towards them, meet their eyes and respond warmly. It sounds tiny, and it is where the spark lives.
From Put the Spark BackYou sit down together at the end of the day. What do you talk about? Instead of the bills and the school run, you ask one fresh question, such as “What made you smile today?”, and you really listen to the answer.
From Put the Spark BackWhenever your partner shares good news with you, you light up with them, ask about it and celebrate it, instead of a flat “That’s nice.”
From Put the Spark BackOnce a week the two of you do something new to both of you, chosen in turns from a list of ideas on the fridge and put in the calendar so it really happens. Your Saturdays may never be the same.
From Put the Spark BackYou laugh together, tease each other kindly, and sometimes send a playful message in the middle of the day. You may catch yourself grinning at your phone in the supermarket queue.
From Put the Spark BackWhenever your partner tells you about something coming up, you remember it, and later you ask how it went. Few things say “I’m paying attention” more clearly.
From Put the Spark BackWhenever someone you love seems quiet or tired, you remember that people have moods of their own, so a quiet evening stays a quiet evening and doesn’t become a verdict on you.
From Stop Fear of AbandonmentEach morning, before you reach for your phone, you take a quiet moment for your steady light and say to yourself, “I am safe, and today is a good day.”
From Stop Fear of AbandonmentWhenever the flutter comes before you ask for something, you stand tall, let one easy breath out and say to yourself, “Asking is how I find out.” Then you ask simply, with a warm smile.
From Stop Fear of RejectionWhenever you hear a no, you take it as information and give yourself credit for asking: “Well done. That was brave.” Then you ask, “What can I learn, and where shall I ask next?”
From Stop Fear of RejectionWhenever you meet again at the end of the day, you greet your partner with real pleasure, as if you had been looking forward to it all day.
From Put the Spark Backyou have been keeping score of who tried last. The moment you catch yourself waiting for them, you make one small, warm move of your own, and let them answer whenever and however they choose.
From Put the Spark Back
He is a licensed Clinical Hypnotherapist, and you won’t find a “spice it up” list anywhere on these tracks. Steve has practised clinical hypnotherapy and NLP since the 1980s, and he is President of the American Alliance of Hypnotists and the American Union of NLP.
His early life was hard. He lost his mother young and grew up with a father who battled alcohol abuse. Years later, failed business ventures left him $80,000 in credit card debt, with collection agencies at the door, living out of his office after being evicted.
He rebuilt by reprogramming his mind and putting simple systems in place, and that became the Dream Life Mastery Program. Today he manages 22 training certification programs in hypnosis and NLP and coaches top Hollywood directors, sports stars and CEOs.
“How lucky are those who have had the benefit of his genius!”
WOW! No wonder Steve is the leader in hypnotherapy. How lucky are those who have had the benefit of his genius!
“open a new door to a new path”
I would highly recommend you and your site to anyone who is fed up with the way things are now, this minute, and want to open a new door to a new path. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
“among the best in the world”
Being someone who is extremely familiar with the power of hypnosis, I can say without a shadow of a doubt that Clinical Hypnotherapist Steve G. Jones is among the best in the world.
“the positive impact it’s made on my life”
My appreciation for your work and the positive impact it’s made on my life is far more than I’m able to describe here. However, I’ve been inspired to live out my dreams and have actually taken real steps towards its realization in the past few months. Your Fan, Student & Friend.
“effective and very useful”
I have been lucky enough to be able to listen to Steve Jones’ recordings for about 7 or 8 years. I have always believed in hypnosis and have found these recordings to be effective and very useful. I just listen and notice the change.
These comments are about Steve’s hypnosis work in general, not about this edition.
A little lift in your chest at the thought of someone laughing at your joke across the kitchen table again.
How much would it be worth to you to look forward to your evenings together again?
How much would it be worth to feel steady when they seem distant, instead of reading it as the beginning of the end?
How much would it be worth to suggest something new without bracing for a no?
And how much would it be worth to take a new photo worth keeping, blurred with laughter?
Most couples simply drift.
Nobody does anything wrong. The evenings fill with screens and the weekends with errands, and one day two kind people realise they have become polite strangers who share a fridge.
Think about that for a moment.
Each of these tracks is on sale by itself at dreamlifetrack.com, so the numbers are easy to check. Put the Spark Back sells for $29.95, Stop Fear of Abandonment for $29.95 and Stop Fear of Rejection for $29.95.
Separately, the three cost $89.85.
The Put the Spark Back Complete Edition brings all three together in one order, for less than two and a half of them would cost:
one payment of $69.95that leaves $19.90 for your first new adventure
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Steve suggests staying with one track for 21 days. Start with Put the Spark Back and the warm attention, then Stop Fear of Abandonment for the evenings when they seem far away, then Stop Fear of Rejection for the courage to ask and to go first. The Complete Edition prices the three as one plan, which is why they cost less together.
Everything is an instant download, so your first evening can be tonight.
And because a new habit deserves a fair trial…
Order the Put the Spark Back Complete Edition, download the tracks and listen every day. Try the fresh questions, the warm welcome and the fridge list on real evenings.
Give it up to 30 days of real evenings. If you don’t feel 100% happy with your purchase, a single email to support gets you every penny back.
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For a long relationship that has turned into routine. Turning towards each other, fresh questions, celebrating good news, appreciation out loud, play, and something new every week, rehearsed beside a campfire under the stars.
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For feeling secure when your partner seems distant or is away. A steady light each morning, one message and then letting it be, and a calm ask for what helps you feel close, rehearsed at the top of a white lighthouse.
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For the courage to ask and to go first. A short routine before you ask, a no taken as information, credit for every ask and one small ask a day, rehearsed in a breezy spring park full of kites.
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| Put the Spark Back, sold on its own | $29.95 |
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One $69.95 payment, three tracks, and the first evening can be tonight.
You greet each other at the door as if you had been looking forward to it all day, because you have.
The list on the fridge is half crossed off, and the calendar has something new in it most weeks.
A quiet evening is just a quiet evening, and you enjoy your own company until they come and find you.
You ask for what you want, and a no is just a no for tonight.
And you have a new photo on your phone, a bit blurred, because you were both laughing too hard to hold still.
Do you know what a fire needs when it has burned down to embers? A huge new log would smother it. It needs a gentle breath of air and a little kindling.
A long relationship is the same. Small attention, offered often, does far more than a grand gesture once a year.
If it feels as if there is a canyon between your sofa and that blurred, laughing photo, make one small decision tonight.
The kindling is in your hands. Go first.
P.S. Try the fresh questions, the fridge list and the warm welcome at the door for up to 30 days. If you aren’t 100% happy, email support@dreamlifeprogram.com and every penny comes back, no questions asked.
P.P.S. On their own, the three tracks cost $29.95 each, $89.85 in all. The Put the Spark Back Complete Edition gives you all three and all 12 habits on this page for $69.95, as an instant download, so tonight’s “Look at this” could be the first one you answer with your eyes up.
“Yes! I’m ready to go first, bring fresh curiosity and warm attention home, and let the spark between us grow brighter.”
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